What on earth was Jesus up to. It’s one thing to preach radical submission to the will of God; quite another to command submission to other people:
“…And if anyone forces you to go one mile, go also the second mile.”
For anyone who’s been forced to do anything, the instruction to go further, to give even more, to satisfy every demand – it’s challenging, to say the least. Troubling, baffling. Having read the description of one man’s experience as a POW at the mercy of the Japanese during the Bataan Death March, it is hard to find grace in those words.
And what about what comes next:
For anyone who’s been forced to do anything, the instruction to go further, to give even more, to satisfy every demand – it’s challenging, to say the least. Troubling, baffling. Having read the description of one man’s experience as a POW at the mercy of the Japanese during the Bataan Death March, it is hard to find grace in those words.
And what about what comes next:
“Give to everyone who begs from you, and do not refuse anyone who wants to borrow from you.”
Anyone who’s lived in a city with many people begging will question that wisdom.
A natural response to these instructions is, “But when does it stop? Am I supposed to go forever at someone else’s whims? Give till I have nothing left?” Well, Jesus kind of did… Okay, and maybe he’s exaggerating again, to make a point. But where does that leave us?
Maybe that’s the wrong question. What if our response to this seemingly unreasonable command is not to throw up our hands and say, “What about me?” What if rather we put ourselves in the shoes of the person demanding something of us? Not to lose ourselves – to gain ourselves; to take mastery by choosing to yield. As we train ourselves to be other-directed in our interactions, we might find the giving becomes motivated by compassion for the other, even if that other is trying to control or manipulate us.
There’s more than one way to choose not to be a victim. We can resist. Or comply – by our own choice, even against our own benefit, because we want healing for the other person. I don't think Jesus was talking about situations of pathology or abuse. And yet… and yet, I suspect this is what Jesus was getting at: to value the other above yourself. It's the choice we see him make repeatedly, power in weakness. And remember that thing He also said – “When you feed/clothe/ visit/give to the least of these, you have done so for me?” Can we look for him in the beggar, in the one driving us on?
How do we pray into today’s reading? Like yesterday, bring to mind anyone whom you feel is forcing you to do more than you want to – at work, at church, at home, in a relationship. Ask God to show you something about what motivates that person to try to control others. Maybe see the woundedness that drives the behavior. Then pray for them, and ask God to guide your response. Maybe you go an extra mile, maybe you don’t – respond with the Spirit’s guidance, not on your own.
Similarly, pray about your giving and your lending. Elsewhere Jesus says, when you lend, do it without expectation of return. So then it’s a gift, and a blessing. Who are you being called to bless at this time? Can you find joy in that gift?
The expression, “If it were easy, everyone would be doing it…” comes to mind right about now. The Way of Jesus is not easy, and often counter-intuitive. It has also been for many the Way to true life, the kind of life he said we’d gain when we are willing to lay our prerogatives aside and live for him. Aren't we lucky to have so many people to practice with?
A natural response to these instructions is, “But when does it stop? Am I supposed to go forever at someone else’s whims? Give till I have nothing left?” Well, Jesus kind of did… Okay, and maybe he’s exaggerating again, to make a point. But where does that leave us?
Maybe that’s the wrong question. What if our response to this seemingly unreasonable command is not to throw up our hands and say, “What about me?” What if rather we put ourselves in the shoes of the person demanding something of us? Not to lose ourselves – to gain ourselves; to take mastery by choosing to yield. As we train ourselves to be other-directed in our interactions, we might find the giving becomes motivated by compassion for the other, even if that other is trying to control or manipulate us.
There’s more than one way to choose not to be a victim. We can resist. Or comply – by our own choice, even against our own benefit, because we want healing for the other person. I don't think Jesus was talking about situations of pathology or abuse. And yet… and yet, I suspect this is what Jesus was getting at: to value the other above yourself. It's the choice we see him make repeatedly, power in weakness. And remember that thing He also said – “When you feed/clothe/ visit/give to the least of these, you have done so for me?” Can we look for him in the beggar, in the one driving us on?
How do we pray into today’s reading? Like yesterday, bring to mind anyone whom you feel is forcing you to do more than you want to – at work, at church, at home, in a relationship. Ask God to show you something about what motivates that person to try to control others. Maybe see the woundedness that drives the behavior. Then pray for them, and ask God to guide your response. Maybe you go an extra mile, maybe you don’t – respond with the Spirit’s guidance, not on your own.
Similarly, pray about your giving and your lending. Elsewhere Jesus says, when you lend, do it without expectation of return. So then it’s a gift, and a blessing. Who are you being called to bless at this time? Can you find joy in that gift?
The expression, “If it were easy, everyone would be doing it…” comes to mind right about now. The Way of Jesus is not easy, and often counter-intuitive. It has also been for many the Way to true life, the kind of life he said we’d gain when we are willing to lay our prerogatives aside and live for him. Aren't we lucky to have so many people to practice with?
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